Hudsen Beal Backsmeyer is our little princess and has become our best friend. I cannot believe she is turning 2 today and is going to be a BIG sister in just 6weeks.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Turning Two!
Hudsen Beal Backsmeyer is our little princess and has become our best friend. I cannot believe she is turning 2 today and is going to be a BIG sister in just 6weeks.
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Is this what Potty Training looks like?!
This is what she looked like 3hours into the FIRST day! I looked WORSE! :)
Potty Training Attempt #1...Yeah, this was rough. I just kind of always assumed, that I would get Hudsen potty trained before the 2nd baby arrived. As, in my mind, I am just picturing our house literally exploding with diapers. I picture myself NEVER leaving the changing table, and our trashcans overflowing with pampers and wipes. So, I decided to try the 3day potty training method when Hudsen turned 23months old.
I'm sure many moms have heard of it, and it apparently has a high success rate - well, maybe our 2nd attempt will be a success :)
Basically, the plan for this method is simple. For the THREE days, you and your child are on lockdown at your house. The first morning, you take all the diapers away, in dramatic fashion by throwing them in the trash with your child so they know they no longer exist. We, however, felt that was wasteful, and instead, had Justin take them away with him in the car on his way to work. So Hudsen and I walked out to the car, and waved by to the diapers, that Daddy was taking away to the 'babies'....not sure what babies she thinks Daddy works with, but this trick worked when we said bye to the Paci at 21months - and daddy drove away with a bag full of pacifiers and we waved goodbye from the street....she still says that Daddy took her Paci's to work for the babies.....so we thought this story would be perfect.
NOT THE CASE.
So, for the 3 days you are required to keep your child in only a tshirt and big girl underwear. That way, when they start to pee/poop (and they will like 50 times a day), you can see it right away and rush them to the toilet. Apparently, after having accident after accident, they realize that they need to tell you before they go in their pants and onto the floor. You are not to leave your childs side for 3days and as soon as you do, they WILL have an accident. And by staying so close to them all day, you are supposed to be able to pick up on their cues....maybe an expression or something that they may make right before they go.
Well, my daughter had no expression, and no look of concern until after pee/poop would be on the floor. And as I would run her to the toilet to try to get at least a little into the 'potty' she would be pointing to the floor telling me there was a 'mess.' (as if I didn't see it splash all over the floor) :) Thank god we have wood floors, as I cannot imagine what the moms were doing with accidents all over their carpet.
Hudsen is a big talker, says everything she wants to say at all times....so she got pretty good with the 'fake outs.' What is a 'fake out' you may ask....well, this is when your child says the word 'potty' and you immediately swoop them off their feet and sprint to the bathroom. Only to pull their underwear down in time to set their tiny little bottom on the toilet seat....and then to hear 'No potty mommy.' Take them off the potty, pull the underwear back up, resume playtime, only to witness another accident minutes later. Repeat this 50times daily, and that was my life during these few days.
Seriously, I was starting to think that those doggy pee pads would be great to put around the house!
So by 9:30am the FIRST day, there had been 8 accidents. That's 8 times where I had to clean up the floors, change her big girl pants, and tell her that it was okay, but to NEXT TIME TELL MOMMY WHEN YOU HAVE TO GO POTTY.....if I had a dollar for every time I said that :)
Elmo also tried to show her where to go potty

I was emotionally and physically exhausted by the end of the day, and the next 2 days were not any better. She was sleeping through the night and not wetting her bed so that kept me going....like hey, she can hold it ALLLLL night, that's impressive, so I stuck with it for a 4th day, and luckily, that was the weekend, so Justin was home to help. Although, again, we just saw accident after accident and by the morning of the 5th day, I was emotionally drained. I cried...again, called Justin, and he said 'Brittani, you have given this 100%, and it is obvious that she is just not ready, can we please give our little girl her diaper back' - oh my god! I felt so much relief.....but also, felt as though a little part of me had failed as a mother. But I had to realize that she just wasn't ready and you are not supposed to push them if they aren't there yet. If we weren't having another baby in a few months, I would not have even tried to push her, and probably would have waited until she was 2 or 2 1/2.
So now Justin and I are just bracing ourselves, and we realize this house will be Diaper Central starting in October :)
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Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Dad's Turn to Talk...
Our plan was to have the ultrasound technician write down the sex and put it in an envelope. Brittani and I never envisioned ourselves finding out in the room, as we thought it would be weird to react to the sex in front of someone we barely knew. She wrote it down, slipped it in the envelope and the next 7 hours were borderline torture. I returned back to work and didn’t return home until 7pm. No time was wasted before we decided to open the envelope. Of course we wanted to include Hudsen on this amazing experience and life changing moment so we had her open it up and pull out the sonogram. As she fumbled through it, Brittani decided she would take action and take a peak. We all looked at it together, then looked at one-another, Brittani cried, Hudsen wanted her milk and I realized how lucky I was to proudly say I am going to be the proud father of…………………………….
Another Beautiful little GIRL!!!!!

Words cannot express how happy we both are to have another girl. The fact that Hudsen will have someone she can share so many wonderful things with is so exciting to me. They will grow up talking about things that will help each other navigate through life. Lessons learned only by having a sister. I see the relationships girls have with one another, especially sisters and I can only hope and pray that they will always support one another rather than resort to pity fights of jealousy and God forbid….boys! Not in my house ladies!!!
Now some of you may wonder…what is a dad to do with two girls? Those who know me well may wonder…how will Justin handle two girls? Good question. Easy answer! I have been so enriched being Hudsen’s dad and she has taught me that little things in life are most important. As a guy, growing up, all that mattered to me were guy things head lined by sports and career opportunities and I can’t begin to imagine how two girls will open my eyes to all that is great around me.
I am confident in my ability to play what I will call a zone defense when being the dad of two girls. That means talking on the phone and texting while I’m talking will NOT happen. Dating guys with long hair and ear rings will certainly not happen. (No offense to you guys with long hair; it might be because I’m losing my hair and I’m a little bitter) Most importantly they treat their mom with respect. I have come across girls that are daddy’s little girl but treat mom like crap. Again, not in my house!
Overall, I feel like I’m ahead of the game. I’m not like a lot of guys in a lot of ways. I don’t get mad if a game is not on T.V. I don’t have to watch only ‘guy’ movies. In a lot of ways, I have always had the personality to go with the flow and find everything to be enjoyable. For example, I watch Real Housewives on Bravo and polish that off with nice tall glass of Tori and Dean on Oxygen. So if a guy is gonna have a couple of girls, I might be the best qualified. AND if any of you gentlemen are reading this, don’t laugh…because you know I would kick your ass in any sport, so don’t think Justin is turning soft and won’t boat race you on the golf course and talk trash while I do it.
Another reason for my excitement is for Brittani. She loves being a mom and mom to a little girl. Have you ever seen my daughter without a cute dress/outfit or a bow in her hair? And despite what I may say to sound cool, I too would not want her to walk out the door without her bows. She has done such a terrific job of parenting and I know how wonderful of a role model she will be for our daughters. Brittani is so kind and so grateful for everything, our daughters will have no choice but to one day be smart and beautiful women.
One of the great things about having girls is that they tend to be around a little more. Guys move out, get a job and stay busy being the man of the house. Women tend to come back and visit often. They like to make sure dad is taken care of, which I plan on taking full advantage of. Having two girls, a couple of things are for sure... The clothes I wear will constantly be scrutinized, the guys they date will be hated until proven otherwise and most importantly, they will have me wrapped around their finger until the day I die.
On behalf of Brittani and I, we can’t wait to begin another chapter of our lives with two precious girls. Personally, I could not have imagined it any other way!!
I better go get some work done now, as I recently realized that so far I have two weddings to pay for. We may be asking for donations in 25 years so get your check book ready!!! So until then, Brittani and I will enjoy what two girls have to throw at us, and thank God each and every day for our two little angels!
PS: Brittani and I do have a few names were thinking about. Just to get it out of the way…NO we are not going to tell anyone the name until she is born. We will leave that as a little surprise.
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Sunday, June 20, 2010
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY DADDY! Love, Hudsen

(after the Tim McGraw concert last night, Mommy told me one way I could make this a real tear jerker for you....hopefully she has figured out how to play 'My Little Girl' while you read my note to you......cue the music mom!) :)
I was so happy when Mommy told me I could contribute to her blog and couldn’t wait to write a special note to you. I just want to thank you for being the BEST DAD in the whole wide world. You make everything so special for me.It is the highlight of my day when you walk into my room in the morning to get me up! I always know you have to leave for work soon after, but I look forward to enjoying our breakfast together. Later, it is music to my ears when I hear the loudest-garage-door-ever open in the evening when you come home for dinner. I stop whatever I am doing with Mommy, and run as fast as I can to meet you at the door. You make me laugh and smile when I am with you and I know you must be really funny because Mommy always laughs at you too.
I wish you were home more but Mommy says you have to work so much so she can stay home and play with me every day. Mommy is really fun and I’m so happy I get to be with her all of the time but I really miss you when you’re not here. I am going to miss you even more when the new baby comes. I know the new baby will be here soon, and I’m excited but also hope that I can always be your favorite. I know I am Daddy’s Little Girl right now, but if the new baby is a girl….can I be Daddy’s BIG girl? If it’s a boy it’s okay too…because then I know I am still your one and only princess :) I can only hope you enjoy being my father, as much as I enjoy being your daughter.
This is your 2nd Fathers Day, and my last Fathers Day as your only child and I wanted to make it special for you since you make everyday so wonderful for me.
In just 21 short months I already have so many great memories of just the 2 of us, and I wanted to remind you of those good times today. This way when the new baby comes, and tries to steal all the attention you can look back and remember how fun I am! Here are some pictures of my favorite times with just me and you…
I can only hope that other little girls out there are as happy and lucky as I am to have such a caring daddy as I do. I will always look up to and will, of course, always LOVE you! :)
Written By:
Hudsen Beal Backsmeyer
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Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Happy FIRST 'Twenty First' Birthday Hudsen!
After Hudsen's first year of monthly celebrated birthdays...Justin asked me nicely to please cut back and suggested it was time to just celebrate her ACTUAL 'yearly' birthdays. I agreed, and have since been keeping it simple. Hudsen and I have been having our own secret parties each month instead! Justin jumped back on board when I reminded him that this was her 21st Birthday! Ha! Thought it will be fun to one day compare her day as a 21month old to the day she turns 21 :)
We started the morning by opening her bedroom door singing 'Happy Birthday' and she was all smiles! She is so cute in the morning and this was such a fun way to start to her day!
(I know, almost unrecognizable without her signature bow-she looks naked here to me) :)
I don't know about her, but I know I had worked up quite an appetite at this point so it was time for Lunch!
After dinner, it's time for Hudsen's bath. Thankfully, Justin takes care of this 99% of the time. She loves it, and I think it's actually really fun for both of them.
Hope you have enjoyed your first 21 months as much as your Dad and I have! Goodnight Hudsen and sleep tight! :)
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Wednesday, June 2, 2010
My Birthday Month!
So, I'm obsessed with my birthday! And if anyone is bored enough to read this, then you will realize it. As I was 'proof-reading' my mumble-jumble here, I noticed I used the word 'Birthday' at least 97 times!
I really wish I hadn't spent so much time worrying about this birthday ever since the day I turned 29...because it actually turned out to be probably my most favorite Birthday EVER! 30 sounded so scary, but I had the most fun, and was so lucky to be able to celebrate it with so many wonderful family and friends!
The FIRST birthday party took place at Bravo! on May 15 . Prior to dinner just before heading out the door Justin attempted to get a 'Happy Birthday Mommy' out of Hudsen...she wasn't in a 'performing' mood, but glad he caught this anyways!
All of our favorite couples!
Hudsen joined us for a little while but was later kidnapped by Carmi so we could relax and enjoy our dinner! Mmmm....the spaghetti and meatballs were delicious!
After Bravo!, we headed over to Primebar for some drinks...
Ha! Girls, I had forgotten about taking this short video...its basically a bunch of non-sense but I couldn't help but post it! Don't be mad! :)
And Lisa, I am now well aware that you cared more about the DJ than leaving me a nice Birthday Message :)
As usual, she hit the slides pretty hard at the start.
The THIRD and sadly, final, birthday hoopla was small and intimate the following weekend. I couldn't have had more fun with my handsome hubby and cute little girl and some tasty Mexican at our local Wildwood El Magueys. It was a great evening spent out on the patio wat
ching Justin drink gallon sized draft beers, and Hudsen stealing her Dad's hat to play peek-a-boo with us.Posted by Brittani at 11:20 AM 1 comments
Thursday, May 13, 2010
My 2nd Mothers Day
I had an amazing 2nd Mother's Day! It has definitely become my favorite holiday and the most fun day to celebrate. (sorry Mom...didn't realize how special this day was until recently...promise to do better with the gifts from now on) :)
I didn't think too much about Mother's Day leading up to the day...as I have had other things on my mind....like trying to sell our house and my looming 30th birthday! Yikes! But I put my anxiety about my birthday away and had a fabulous weekend with my family! I was spoiled my Justin and my parents as usual and couldn't have asked for anything more. Fun times with my family on Sat night with dinner at Lester's, and then a nice brunch with Justin's family on Sunday at Yayas. We even squeezed in Church for the first time in more than a few weeks. This was our first time going to Ascension in Chesterfield, and we both really liked it. It helped that Hudsen was a perfect angel for once...although we bribed her with so many pretzels that I am starting to worry about her sodium intake.
To reward the big gal after Church we went to Faust Park to say 'Hi' to the geese...
and got some quality swing time in...

...And Justin even captured a special message just for me :
Thank you Justin for a great weekend, and thank you even more for our amazing little girl. I never would have known how badly I wanted to be a mom before we had Hudsen, and I never would have had the chance without you. :) Love you!
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Selling Our House!
When Justin would come home on the weekends, he was welcomed with hugs and kisses, and usually a mile long 'to-do' list. Mostly things that I couldn't do myself...yardwork, picture hanging, painting, deck staining, and yes, vacuuming (I hate it, can't do it, and get tangled up in the cord, etc...) So even with all of the pitching lessons he had to take care of every weekend...I was very lucky to have so much help from Justin.

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Tuesday, March 30, 2010
A 'BUN'dle In The Oven!

Justin and I are so excited to announce that we are expecting a BABY! I have known this for entirely too long (about 6 weeks) and am thrilled to finally be able to share the news with friends and family. I am almost 10 weeks along and my due date is Nov 2! Yowsiers that is like 3 seasons away! I know time will fly though as we have so much going on between now and then. Justin's work schedule is crazy and our house goes on the market in just a few weeks!
Most of my girlfriends know that I absolutely loved being pregnant with Hudsen so I am looking forward to the next 7 months! I don't know if its just the freedom to eat what you want without the huge guilt factor, or just the overall excitement of a baby growing inside you...probably a combo of both....but so far this pregnancy hasn't been as easy as my 1st. I have been nauseous almost constantly for the last 4 weeks, and so tired that my Dr. tested...and retested my thyroid...no problems....so that's good, but I am looking forward to my 2nd trimester for sure!
Yes, pregnancy can be a LONG 9 months, but Justin and I feel incredibly blessed to already have 1 healthy, beautiful little baby and are simply amazed that we have a 2nd on the way! We thank God everyday for our growing family and cannot wait to meet our newest member in just a few short months!Posted by Brittani at 6:40 PM 0 comments
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Our Little Gymnast
For the last 3 weeks, our almost 18month old daughter has been taking gym classes and it has been the most fun for her and I. MyGym in Chesterfield Valley is perfect and I look forward to our Thursday class every week! There are usually 10-12 other moms and their babies in our class and it has been so fun to meet new people. During the hour, we sing songs and go through different obstacle courses with lots of climbing, swinging, and tumbling. It is really neat to see these 1-2year olds interact. I haven't been able to take many pictures of the class while it is in session, as I usually have my hands full trying to keep up with Hudsen...but we also go to MyGym on Fridays for their 'Free Play' hour and this is where she is able to play with anything and everything they have during an uninstructed hour. So last week, Justin took a long lunch to see what all the hoopla was about! He was definitely impressed with our little toddler, and her skills...especially on the balance beam! With an extra set of hands we couldn't resist taking a little video, and some pictures of the little gal showing her natural tallent...
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